In a recent blog titled, “Your Best Year Yet” I mention that I choose to focus on a different area of personal development every year. I do this so as to actively work towards fulfilling my life’s purpose, which I believe is “Munay” or simply put, Love and Will. I will share more about this at a later stage.
My focus for 2018 is Joy … and having a whole lot of fun. It’s my 50th birthday year after all and I am preparing for one of my biggest dreams to come true. I might as well do it with a joyful spirit and have fun at the same time. Maybe I chose “Joy” simply because it’s actually my middle name … who knows.
I have chosen to make joy my focus this year because I believe that I have forgotten the art of a joyful existence. I have been caught up in a deceptive state of living for most of my life, looking for the illusive “happiness” in everything external, people, things, relationships, events. It wasn’t until I made peace with my past and found forgiveness, that I could move from seeking happiness to experiencing joy on a daily basis.
Age and experience are my new best friends. Often it’s just wise to bite your lip, smile and have a glass of wine. Sometimes you have to find comfort in your own words and remember that being taken care of by yourself is enough.
Joyful living is an art which requires self-discipline. It is very different from happiness as it comes from within, from your heart and soul.
A joyful state of being is derived from striving to be constantly grateful and aware of our connection with all beings. It comes from giving of ourselves to others without conditions. Bringing happiness to the lives of others is just as important as knowing how to be happy yourself, by yourself. Is it possible to be genuinely happy when those around us are unhappy?
How often do we forget to notice the things we already have because we are so caught up in going after the things we think will make us happy. We spend our lives chasing after the things we want and in the process we overlook the people that we have in our lives and everything else that is already there.
“When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.”
I once read that when you make peace with who you are, why you are and how you are you will experience joy. There’s nothing beautiful about a mind which is always craving more so it is important to develop a healthy sense of appreciation for what we have right now, especially the people in our lives. Goodness is about character – integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage, and the like. More than anything else, it is about how we treat other people.
Life quickly loses its magic, creativity and excitement when we feel as though we are stuck in a rut, in a repetitive cycle from which we are unable to free ourselves. Regain the joy in life by being present, living moment to moment with a natural spontaneity.
I celebrate life, appreciate the blessing of being a mother, have fun, live in the moment and savour the beauty of everything around me.
Spoil your loved ones just a little more than you normally do, make that hug last just a little longer, show them just how much they mean to you and then do the same with someone you have never met before. It might just change their lives forever.
Let go of the pursuit of happiness and live with joy.
Clothing for the shoot supplied by Brands Luv U.